Analyzing The Energy Of People ! Vampires Dracula !

You come across people in life who bring unexpected comfort and light – they sizzle with energy and their mere presence is enough to create an electrifying environment. You just love to hang out with such people. You, in fact, think of becoming like them. But then there are few others who can make you feel hopeless – you feel stressed in their presence. You feel every single bit of your body get exhausted. You can feel the energy draining out of your mind and body. You just want to run away from them and sometimes you do run away! These people are the vampires, except that they suck out your energy instead of your blood. They are energy vampires, who are extremely unpleasant, submissive and weak. They come in all forms – sometimes they play the victim and at other times they make you the victim!

For instance, I have a colleague who constantly whines and always considers himself as the victim. He feels the world is always against him and he never stops recounting every awful thing that has ever happened to him. Self-pity has become his regular habit. I also have a charming cousin who always insists on being the center of attention – he thinks the world revolves around him – a constant talker who tries to present himself as an energetic, bubbly person. So, how do you recognize an energy vampire? What if you are turning into one? It is therefore important to understand that a relationship stays healthy when there is a proper channel of energy exchange. It is essential to ask yourself the following questions to ensure you always feel your best:

– Who gives you energy?

– Who weakens your energy?

– Do you have a healthy circle of friends?

It is important to surround yourself with heart-centered supportive people who can make you feel safe and secure. It is also equally important to identify the energy vampires who leech your energy (intentionally or unintentionally) and take steps to eliminate them from your circle or help them with positivity. Sharing positivity can always be refreshing not only for others but also for you.

For instance, you are nervous about an interview, but the moment you meet your prospective boss, you calm down as he is warm and friendly. So, ultimately every cell in your body relaxes. Or you are going through a rough phase in your life and the mere presence of a good friend makes you feel loved. These are the kind of people – the energy-givers you should surround yourself with.

The more you treasure such people, the calmer you become. You need to gravitate more towards these people who naturally attract you more towards them. A circle of positive people can also help to repel the energy vampires. Make a conscious effort to choose the right relationships and it will make a huge difference in the quality of your life and your energy level.

On the contrary, energy vampires release negative energy that drains you. They can be intentionally spiteful or sometimes unaware of the negative effect they have on others. Some are bossy while some are charming. For instance, you have a colleague who just can’t stop cribbing about her ex-boyfriend and how much the breakup affects her. She might feel better, but your energy level will go to ground zero. Or the nice guy you met at a friend’s party, but within minutes of knowing him, you feel stressed and want to walk away from the conversation. The moral of the story is these people intentionally or unintentionally suck you dry on a subtle energy level.

What is an Energy Vampire?

You have had a great day and are feeling upbeat, but suddenly you realize you feel moody and frustrated after spending a few seconds with a particular person. This person may appear as a buzzkill and you will wonder what just happened. You start questioning your mental stability for feeling such extreme emotions and will feel as if something is wrong with your mind. You are not alone here! All of us have been through this – especially if you belong to the breed of highly sensitive person.

Energy vampires drain your energy – just one interaction with them and you are completely tired (both mentally and physically). They can be the life of the party – appealing and alluring, but every time you are with them, you feel a bit stressed or negative. Energy vampires are not easy to spot as they come in all sizes and shapes – they can be a well-mannered coy person, a sociopath or someone with a borderline personality disorder.

Every one of us is filled with universal life force energy – often referred to as prana or chi – this is the energy that sustains you and me. When you are healthy, you are able to create this life force energy and maintain it. But, energy vampires are usually not able to sustain this life force at healthy levels, as their ability to produce the chi is malfunctioning. In order to boost their own life force energy, they seek the support of others – but in a negative manner! They suck the energy vibrations from others to manage their worn-out energy resources.

Why does this happen? If an individual was traumatized or exploited when he or she was vulnerable, it is tough for them to connect with their own chi. In such cases, the individual finds a way to manage their energy shortage by drawing the energy from others at a young age. Sometimes, they may learn these traits from the environment they grew up in. For instance, they may have been the victims – their parents may have lived off by taking their energy. Unfortunately, these children can also be a good host for the energy vampires, as they are used to remain submissive and silent. Scary, isn’t it?

It is, therefore, crucial to identify the energy vampires in your life and decide if you need to eliminate them or limit communication with them. If the energy vampires are within your circle or if they are your loved ones, then you might have to strategize on how to live with them or help them. They can have control over you only if you let them. You will need to take control of such situations – identify, plan and execute.

Empower the relationships on your own terms – choose conscious mindfulness to address these issues and get your tools ready whenever needed.

Dangers of an Energy Vampire

People who display traits of an energy vampire usually lack sensitivity, emotional maturity and empathy. The insecurity or the pain they feel within themselves causes them to get addicted to hunt others energy. This, in a way, heals their inner suffering. Some of them do it unintentionally while some others do it deliberately. There is no definite set of people who can make an energy vampire. It can be anyone – a friend, a colleague, a child, a family member, an acquaintance, a romantic partner, a stranger, mother or father.

You are likely to attract energy vampires if you are too considerate, compassionate and highly empathetic. If you are someone who is extremely compassionate and doesn’t know to set boundaries, then it is possible that energy vampires will surround you before you know it. Energy vampires get attracted to such people because they unconsciously long to resolve a much deeper problem within their psyches. They pick you as the solution to all their problems.

Is it possible to identify an energy vampire? Though it is not easy, there are certain things you can look out for in a person and make a decision. The most common ones are:

• These people can never take criticism. If you suggest that they need to improve in a certain area, you will be at the receiving end of their anger or stonewalling.
• They always play the victim card. They can never take accountability for anything that happens to them in their life. It is like someone else is always doing things to them because they don’t seem to have a conscience.
• They are sly and shrewd when it comes to getting things done their way.
• There is drama everywhere – they attract drama. You will be asked for advice or opinion on some crucial issues, but when you offer your help or suggestion, they won’t accept it. Whatever you do for them will not suffice and ultimately you get affected by the end of the day.
• They will leave you feeling irritated all the time – no matter what you do!

They are some of the most annoying people you will ever come across. They have this amazing talent to evade the simplest questions – they will do anything to show themselves in the best light possible. No amount of love or care will seem to help them as they either portray themselves as the victims or the know-it-alls. They intend to push all their issues on you and drain your energy until you are completely exhausted. You may respect them in your life, as they are either your close ones or well-wishers.

Have you ever tried to get the energy vampire in your life to be more mindful of others? Yes? If it had worked and you are able to continue your interaction with them by setting the boundaries, well that is good for you! But in case it hasn’t worked, then back off! The first step – say NO to things you really aren’t interested in doing or don’t want to do.

The next thing might sound silly, but this really works – at least it did for me. Delete those energy vampires from your social media connections. How does this help? Well, you don’t need to get triggered by their negative or gloomy post especially when they are not physically present next to you.

You don’t need to carry the burden of other people’s issues unnecessarily, especially when whatever you do to help them doesn’t work and instead costs you your peace and tranquility. Of course, there is nothing wrong to be available for others but definitely not at the cost of your own health. Take care of yourself and set healthy boundaries that can work for both the parties.

Types of Energy Vampires

You may come across many variations of Energy vampires in your life – the narcissist (self-absorbed), the victim, the passive-aggressive (gets angry with a smile), the ragea-holic (showing the anger wrath), the drama queen (sucking your soul with their drama). As mentioned earlier, you tend to become vulnerable to these energy vampires if you are too empathetic or sensitive. They can be stealthy, annoying, friendly or the predator-type.

It is essential to understand that these people haven’t developed the ability to deal with their issues and so, don’t feel resentful towards them. Since they are in their own pain, they try to find solace to prey on others. But that doesn’t necessarily mean that you are responsible for resolving all their issues. They will have to understand that it is their own responsibility to sort out their problems. It so happens that an energy vampire can leave you feeling so drained that you become powerless to take care of your own self. This gradually leads to irritation, anger, fatigue, anxiety or depression. You need to know how to draw the line and set boundaries around them. For this to happen, you need to know the different types of energy vampires and the ways to identify them.

There are six major types of energy vampires:

·         The Martyr Vampire (the victim)

·         The Narcissist Vampire

·         The Dominator Vampire

·         The Melodramatic Vampire (the drama king or queen)

·         The Judgmental Vampire – The Innocent Vampire

The Martyr Vampire

These people believe that they suffer mainly due to others and are always at the mercy of the world. They make you feel guilty and prey off the guilt you feel for them. They have this habit of emotionally blackmailing people to get things done their way.

They never take responsibility for their actions and are always blaming and manipulating others. What causes this behavior in them? The extremely low selfesteem they have forces them to feel that they are always the victims. They may have never received any sign of approval, care and love, which eventually makes them feel unacceptable and unworthy. How do they resolve this issue of theirs? They make you feel guilty and suck away the empathy or sympathy you show to them.

How to take care of your energy: 

Be aware of the self-pity signals displayed when you are around a martyr vampire. For example, a person might blame another person for their suffering or perhaps describe how terrible their whole day has been. They force you to get involved in their self-pity. Don’t! If possible, limit your interactions with such people!

The Narcissist Vampire

People who care only about themselves anytime and every time fall under this category. They don’t seem to have the capacity to show genuine interest or empathy towards others. They always expect you to put their needs first, do whatever they want, listen to what they see and feed their egos. These people can initially come up as charming personalities, but it doesn’t take long for them to stab your back the moment they get a chance. It is always ‘me first’ for them and never US or WE. In case you have a narcissist vampire in your life, then you may feel a sense of extreme helplessness, as you are always crushed under their interests.

How to take care of your energy: 

Cut them off completely! If you are unable to do so, show them how their desires can satisfy their self-interest (especially in a professional environment). Limit your conversation as much as possible.

The Dominator Vampire

These people act like they are the alphas of your life, as they love that feeling of being superior to you. Most people show domineering skills. The deepest insecurities within their inner self of being wrong or weak unconsciously hurt them and therefore they try to compensate it by intimidating others. These people are often sexist, narrow-minded or racist and have a rigid belief about the world. Their perceptions of the world are mostly unacceptable to others and they turn out to be loudmouths.

How to take care of your energy: 

Be bold whenever there is a necessity. They try to scare you because deep inside they are scared to be dominated by others. Limit your interactions and if possible, agree to disagree to save yourself from getting exhausted.

The Melodramatic Vampire

All the drama kings and drama queens fall under this category. These people thrive on creating unnecessary problems. The dark underlying emptiness in their lives often forces them to create continuous drama – mostly to attract attention. Sometimes they deliberately look for crisis in their life, as this gives them a reason to feel victimized. When they do this, they feel they get that love and importance they are deprived of (which may or may not be the case). Too much self-importance unconsciously diverts them from the real issues in life or sometimes they deliberately avoid these issues. Some of them enjoy creating drama, as they are able to feed off the negative emotion (anger), which becomes addictive.

How to take care of your energy: 

Don’t take sides or get involved in their pot-stirring activity. Analyze the patterns of their behavior that triggers your emotions that make you want to get involved. Distance yourself accordingly and if possible – cut them off your life.

The Judgmental Vampire

These people enjoy picking on others as they have seriously low self-worth. They try to shame you at every possible instance – by making you feel pathetic, ashamed or tiny. They boost their egos by preying on your insecurities – in fact, they enjoy doing so. How they treat others is a mere reflection of how they treat themselves!

How to take care of your energy: 

Don’t take whatever they say personally. Remember, true self-worth should come from within. You lose, the moment you get defensive with them. Their deepest pain of worthlessness and the need to feel good about themselves forces them to prick you. Try being sweet to them (this pisses them off!) and always be level headed. Have your balance in place. Better to cut them off!

The Innocent Vampire

Not all energy vampires are evil; there are cases of innocent vampires too. These people are not always mean and malevolent. They are the ones who genuinely need help – your best friend who relies heavily on you or young children who don’t know what to do. They are mostly helpless and it is, therefore, vital to persuade them to be self-sufficient. There is nothing wrong in helping out those who really need you or the ones whom you really care about. But don’t play the role of the constant support system, as it will slowly drain away all your energy and you will have too little to care for yourself.

How to take care of your energy: 

Love yourself first! Don’t be available too much and gently remind them that you need your own me time too. It is good to be loving and compassionate to them by encouraging them to develop their buoyancy, determination and vigor. This way, you can slowly remove yourself from the role of a constant giver or caretaker. It is significant to be able to identify the type of energy vampires in your life and work out a strategy. Plan in such a manner that you have the ability to deal with them when the time comes. Don’t allow your energy to be depleted!